The Surprising Secret to Self-Care: It’s Not About You (A Book Review)

I’ve learned to listen to my body. It hasn’t been a quick road – in fact, it’s been meandering. Years of ignoring her signals are hard to undo. Believing the mind-body connection is some vague, perhaps even New Age, concept is a hard habit to break.

But, break those habits I did. It all started when I found myself saying to a friend, “I’ve been sick for a year. I think I can’t get well because my spirit isn’t well.”

My brain was like a filing cabinet with papers bursting out of the cracks. My heart was like a broken vase glued together too many times. Every time I started to heal, I cracked again, each time worse than the last. My weekly Bible study was holding me together by a few loose threads, for which I was grateful, but I was still missing something.


Sabbath doesn’t have to occur on Sunday, but it does have to occur.  God wasn’t throwing around arbitrary rules when he commanded us to rest. We need the unplugged stillness to process our own thoughts, to connect with Him, and to refill our cups so we can continue to pour life into those we love.

Sandra Peoples, author and mom to 2 boys (one with autism), just released her new ebook, Abide: Self-Care for the Busy Mom.  Abide is life-giving for any mom, as Sandra herself says: “I wrote it as a special-needs mom, but not for special-needs moms only. There are lessons I’ve learned from being James’s (and David’s) mom that I think apply to every one.”

I love that Sandra’s book on self-care, a concept so often entangled in self-centeredness, is instead grounded in the Word. She starts with John 15:15:

I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.

We don’t have to do it all. As a matter of fact, we can’t do it all. But in God, we can do all He sets before us. Sandra won’t tell you to cure your exhaustion with more pedicures. She’ll give you practical action steps to know you are in Christ, know your purpose, and put that purpose into action — without sacrificing your own health.

Listen to your body. Listen to your soul. What are they telling you today?

Right now you can buy Abide for $2.99 on Amazon. This price is only good through the weekend, so grab yours today! No Kindle? No problem. Download the free app on another device.

New here? Glad you made it! I write about my unique joys and challenges as Mom to Henry, a smart, tender, quick­-witted, train-loving, autistic 10-­year­-old with an infectious smile. I long to encourage autism parents and empower all to see inclusivity doesn’t have to be difficult - it can be beautiful. Like what you see? Sign up here to receive news and occasional freebies just for insiders.

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